I’ve been thinking about this blog post for days. Every time I choose something to write about it shows up in my life so unapologetically. This post was harder because I realize how much I still give away my power at times.
If you are like me you’ve been a peace maker most of your life, maybe since you were a child or maybe you’re a people pleaser (no shame, it’s actually a trauma response and honestly not your fault). I like to make everyone happy, but that usually takes away from my happiness. Don’t get me wrong it’s amazing to support the people around you but sometimes when you are struggling or going through shifts it’s better to take a step back and listen to what you need and not what everyone else needs. So how do you know when you are giving your power away? This can show up in many forms. Lying or not speaking your truth, blaming everything or everyone around you or neglecting simple needs you have. For me when I am giving my power away is when I disconnect from what I am feeling and try to feel what everyone else is. Call me a hopeless empath but I am learning not everyone’s energy needs to be absorbed or even observed.
When you reclaim your power life starts making sense again. The easiest way to take your power back, which some of us lose sight of sometimes (I know I do) is by taking responsibility for your life. Take responsibility for your choices. This is your life and when it all falls apart you know who is gonna recreate it and put it back together….. YOU. If you are stuck in a cycle of blame, just know that is a choice. If you hate your life just know that is your choice. If you are depending off substances or relationships to get by, it’s all your choice. I say this with love because I’ve been there. Anything that would just get me through the day, the week or the month. I’ve given up more times than I’d like to admit, but I am here and all I can do is take responsibility for ALL OF IT. Do you surround yourself with people who don’t see you? It’s not fun at all and that’s probably the least empowering feeling, you don’t deserve that, no one does. I gave my power away and felt like the people around me didn’t want me. I sunk into a deep depression and no one even really could tell. I knew I didn’t belong at the job I was at, you might feel this same resistance in parts of your life. Getting better is a choice. Loving your life is a choice. Surrounding yourself with people who truly support you is a choice. You have all of the power inside of you that you could ever possibly need. Stop giving it away. I want to celebrate the people who know how epic they are and stand in there strength. The more we stand in our purpose the more people get to see that shift in themselves. This world is always expanding. Sending you all love and light, and I hope you’re ready to step into your magic if you’re not already because honey you DESERVE THE LIFE YOU DESIRE!